Asking someone about what they intended by what looks like a race/gender-motivated insult is arguably the most polite way of dealing with such a remark: it opens the opportunity for them to clarify and doesn’t immediately leap to conclusions. I am sorry that Wes was upset by the exchange and its aftermath (and it seems like that all happened quickly and partly in private) but I don’t see how it can be characterized as bullying.
Conversely, characterizing people in another group as e.g. buffoons and attention whores is aggressive, personal, and the kind of phrase that carries a lot more sting for women than for men. It is also not the setup for a rational conversation.
I know that intfic was made to allow for people to avoid following intfiction’s code of conduct. But in a previous conversation some people expressed confusion about why I don’t find this board welcoming and why I feel that I should not be here. This kind of language is a good example of why.
Obviously, the rules here are what the participants make them, and equally obviously I’m free not to participate, and I expect to return to that practice shortly. However, I’m here at the moment because I’ve had multiple questions from multiple people about this board, the IF community, this thread specifically, and why I promote the IF community in light of this kind of interaction.
So I’d like to say, for anyone who’s read through to this point, that I disagree with the language used here, that I do not think the things said here are representative of the IF community as a whole, that I don’t think anyone is in fact voting all 1s to updated games; that Lucea is not a bully; that I don’t think Wes meant any malice either; that many of us aren’t calling any other groups idiots, fools, lazy, buffoons or attention whores; and that failing to make an IFDB news item about your game does not inherently characterize you, your authoring, or your promotion skills as “shitty.” (Most people probably don’t even know how that feature works; lots of people do other things to promote their games, such as e.g. submit them to festivals, which I know is the case with Synfac.) It’s easy for what is said most loudly to be heard most clearly, on every side, but that doesn’t make it the majority view.
Again, apologies for entering this space; I did so only because I felt it was necessary to put some context here for people I know are reading. If you have things you’d like to discuss with me about these issues, please feel free to email and I’m happy to discuss further.